I am feeling calm and relaxed. Why am I feeling so? Because I have no difficult decisions to make. I realized that stress arises when we are faced with a decision making situation. Add the number of situations, and make some of the situations ambiguous and fuzzy, and there climbs up the stress level.
All week at office, I am faced with myriad of situations where I have to make decisions. Which email to write first, who to pay visit next for the follow-up, the vendor’s quotation has to be approved to commence project, what should I do to expedite the process.. and so on. Plus there would be matters to take care of from my personal life, which will keep hovering in the head. I don’t feel I am stressed, but in a few instances I have reacted to people in ways that I feel bad about later. I guess it was stress that led to it.
I think that reducing the number of decision making situations can help stay calm. Asking for help from a colleague or supervisor can be of great aid. It can cut down the time for which the pending decision will keep circling in the mind. Writing down non- official errands to take care of later will help reduce it further. I practice the habit of breaking down an action into steps, which I think is an effective way to ease the decision making process. For example, if I was given a task to make an explainer video, I would break it down into steps and write the name of person I need to speak to for the same. I would order the action items basis priority and also write the date by which I need to stick to. That clears the cloud around a big task and makes it easier to address smaller decisions, one at a time.
Today being a holiday is a peaceful day comparatively. I have only a limited number of decisions to make. In the morning I decided that I will just stay at home, savour the warm sun, and relax to Harleys in Hawaii. Now, here I am. There’s the idyllic blue sky, fluttering tree leaves, banter of children playing nearby and chuckles of birds from here and there. It’s calm and peaceful. I just have one tough decision to make though, what should I get for lunch! 😀
When a friend is depressed
Spot it and get to your feet
Leave everything and focus
Only on your friend
And be with them
Around them
Don’t let them
Feel alone
Be around
And be compassionate
Lend them ears and judge not
And advice not
Give them love
By not advising them
But rather listening to them
Unbiased, with love and concern
Hear feel and see the perspective
That pains
Your friend
Don’t blot it but acknowledge
And see the reason your friend
Is suffering
And put yourself in that place
And feel the same intensely
Then with compassion naturally
Arising hold your friend and
Let them speak and say you
Understand what they are going through
And don’t give lecture or lessons
Say you feel it
Know it
Experience it
And so you want to be
Be there till all is fine
And let them be.
Be.
Never leave
Their side
Ever
For you
You are
The reason they can
Live again.
Again.
This life blissful!